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Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option.

Hater by Maya Angelou

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends their time
trying to make you look small so they can look tall.

They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever Good
enough!

When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...

That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and
your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed...

It's dangerous to be like somebody else...

If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you

What He gave them!

Right?

You never know what people have gone through to get what they have...

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't
know my story...

If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!

We've all got some haters among us!

People envy you because you can:

Have a relationship with God

Light up a room when you walk in

Start your own business

Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn't about the Right thing). Raise your children without both parents being in the home.

Haters can't stand to see you happy; Haters will never want to see you
succeed;
Haters never want you to get the victory; most of our haters are
people who are supposed to be on our side.

How do you handle your undercover haters?

You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY
IMPORTANT!!)

2. Having a purpose to your life? Purpose does not mean having a job.
You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a
clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by
what others think about you.

3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not Human
manipulation.

Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when its your
time to leave this earth, you 'want' to be able to say, 'I've lived my life
and fulfilled 'my' dreams,... Now I'm ready to go HOME! When God gives
you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at me...Look at Who is
in charge of me...'

Pass this to all of your family & friends who you know are not hating on
you including the person who sent it to you. If you don't get it back, maybe you called somebody out! Don't worry about it, it's not your problem, it's theirs! Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours!

Watch out for Haters....................BUT most of all don't become a HATER!

Maya Angelou

"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland~

It Must Be Nice

It must be nice
To come and go as you please
Not worrying about shit
Living life at ease
Please
Put on my shoes for a day
You could never sacrifice and live the way I do
Why you say
You live in a world that's all your alone
One mouth to feed
One body to clothe
One life to worry about
At all times
Oh I get it
Now you want to file a complaint
Well I'm not the one
To hear the crying
Whining
Complaining
Sad ass song
Guess what
The show must go on
Time freezes for no one
And nothing
Not even me
Oh now I get it
You got it like that
Got it going on
Doing as you wish
Living comfortably
But shit ain't that sweet when it comes to me

The Nerve

How dare you question me
Is it because of reality
Your eyes are open and you finally see
Haven't been on your job now your mad at me
For what?
You had your chance now your time has expired
Don't try and make be out to be a liar
You can say what you want I've always tried
To make sure they get my life I'm giving it like it's on fire
Go to plan B because this one isn't workin
You have no one else to hold accountable
For its you that's doing the jerkin
Not me
For their precious life I'm liable
At the end of the day it falls on you
Stop thinking of yourself look at the bigger picture
Walking around stupid you don't even have a clue
Of the little heart your words can puncture
And you have the nerve to be mad at the world
And me
If only you looked through my eyes for one day you could see
What I see and what I live
Every single day
A free moment of your time you don't even have to give?
At the end of the day what more is there to say

RAGE

Rage engulfed in adulthood fighting to come out
Fighting to exploit those that have angered
Angered for what
A waste of energy
Not worth any of my time
Refusing to indulge in those games that you wish to play
Wrapped up tighter than saran
Wrap my emotions around heart
Squeezing
Gripping
Squeezing
No more movement
Its over now
My heart smiles
With the thought of it
The thought of your lifelessness
of your stillness
of your breathlessness
of your end
Shall peace resume inside of this storm
Will I feel better
Can I move on peacefully, positively, happily
No
Rage engulfed into adulthood fighting to come out
Suppressing these emotions, feelings, thoughts
I refuse to succumb to your ignorance
Foolishness
Idiocracies
Adulthood has taken over
I must move on

HIV/AIDS Among Women....

As some of you know the numbers are increasing and alarming in the black community, but they're growing. So I decided to post some of a lengthy report from the CDC on this topic putting it into black and white for you.

Early in the epidemic, HIV infection and AIDS were diagnosed for relatively few women and female adolescents (although we know now that many women were infected with HIV through injection drug use but that their infections were not diagnosed) [1]. Today, women account for more than one quarter of all new HIV/AIDS diagnoses. Women of color are especially affected by HIV infection and AIDS. In 2004 (the most recent year for which data are available), HIV infection was

• the leading cause of death for black women (including African American women) aged 25–34 years.
• the 3rd leading cause of death for black women aged 35–44 years.
• the 4th leading cause of death for black women aged 45–54 years.
• the 4th leading cause of death for Hispanic women aged 35–44 years.

In the same year, HIV infection was the 5th leading cause of death among all women aged 35–44 years and the 6th leading cause of death among all women aged 25–34 years. The only diseases causing more deaths of women were cancer and heart disease FOR MORE INFO PLEASE GO TO: http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/women/resources/factsheets/women.htm

Ignorance

There is one thing that I can honestly say annoys me, but is annoying the hell out of me as I get older. Ignorant people. Sometimes I feel like I'm the weirdo or my way of thinking is insane just because of the madness that I sometimes encounter. Then I think to myself. Does this person know what they're doing? Does this person think before they open their trap? 9 times out of 10 yes. They know, they just don't care. Next question: Why should I???

Darkness, Silence, Alone

Darkness
Silence
Alone

Thinking
Breathing
Writing

Darkness
Silence
Alone

Thinking
Breathing
Relaxing

Darkness
Silence
Alone

Was in desperate need of these things
to write
to function
to keep sanity

Darkness
Silence
Alone

Keepin it real....

Its funny how life throws things at you and how you learn to cope with whatever it is. Well my latest lesson is learning how to let go. I am letting go of the battles of other. They're not mine to fight. When I am asked for my advice or opinion I give it from a neutral perspective. I speak without bias. I keep it real. In listening to people I also know that these people that are asking me what they should do know what they do, they don't want to do it. People know what their situation is, they know what they are dealing with, but they don't want to hear it. People want it sugarcoated for them so it will make them happy in their fantasy world. I don't live in that world. I don't live by those fantasy rules so I have to ask myself, why am I stepping into their fantasy world? People are who they are. Deal with it. Accept it. Get over it. I refuse to give anyone the power to define me nor make me feel any other way then the way that I want to feel. I refuse. I will not any longer fall into the clasps of the weak. I will not any longer fall into the feelings of the weak. I will not any longer be drained of my energy that I fight everyday to keep positive for myself and my family. I refuse. After long consideration andanalyzing of my cipher I have decided that as small as it is. It needs to be smaller. I will not be that fake person for anyone. The biting of this tongue is over. You thought I was outspoken before. You have no idea of what has unfolded. I concern myself with those that concern themselves about me. Period. Keep it real with yourself. You can not and never will be real with anyone else if you can't be real with yourself. You will continue to attract the same fake, negative, dramatic, lifeless bullshit ass people in your life if that's what you are. You are the company that you keep. Until you decide to step outside of yourself and see what you're doing wrong you will continue to blame the world for your life and your unhappiness. Happiness begins with you. No one can change that.Rechanneling energy into important things that matter in your life is one of the best thing that you can do for yourself. Some people have too much time on their hands. Too much time + The wrong people= drama. Focus!!! Get on your A game. Take it from someone that has been through it and was recently stuck in the same slump. Life is too short and precious. Take advantage of that free time in positive ways. When its gone you're gonna wish it was there. Keeping it real is one of the best things that you can do for yourself to enhance your life.

Listening

I was having a conversation last night and the topic was listening. Listening is one of the keys to life. You gain so much knowledge by listening to others. You can hear what someone is crying out for, what they need, what they're missing, what they want. Depending on your role in their life you may be able to help them out by showing them your perspective. Looking through others eyes sometimes is all of the advice or help that you need. When you went to school you were told to listen. When you're in a training class or a required class for your job you are expected. When and if you have kids you are expected to listen. When you are in a relationship be that an intimate one or a friendship you are expected to listen. People listen but they don't always hear you. An effective listener is on that listens without thought. Be quiet and listen. You'll hear so much more then what they're saying.......

How much can one take?

Life to me has become one big lesson. The things that I have learned and continue to learn about life no one could ever teach me. There comes a point where you have to learn how to let go. Let go of theunhappines , small things that mean nothing, conditional people, fake people, and those that don't need to be included in your cipher. You are who you socialize with. Why do you think its been any type of relationship from the beginning? We allow people to use us whether its financially, emotionally, or physically we allow it. Some of it we see and acknowledge and some we don't until the situation is done and over with. Grasping that moment of truth when its no longer B.S. and is 100% the truth and a smack in your face is one of the hardest pieces to swallow. Letting go. Leaving it behind and never looking back again. That's the hard part. The easy part that required no work at all was accepting what you were given to deal with that made you unhappy to begin with. The easy part was complaining, but yet still living it. The easy part was beating yourself up about thinking it was something that you said or did to deserve it. The hard part is getting rid of those that you mean less than the best to. Living for yourself (and of course ur kids if it applies) and your happiness takes work. It takes work to be positive. Knowing is not even half of the battle, knowing raises awareness to the detail that requires your attention. I am learning that I must know my self-value and that I must love myself enough to know when enough is enough. Never lose site of that dream. Never lose site of that happiness that doesn't require one dime. Never lose site of that goal that you've been told is unobtainable. Never take so much negative that who you are becomes hidden behind wounds that only you can heal. Never look to rely on others when the answer is you. Never be anything but who you are and be able to say that this is enough and now its time to do me. Those that get eliminated or hurt during the process shouldn't have been there anyway. Blocking my blessings by having the wrong ones in my cipher aren't worth it. Its okay to let it go, to let them go, to be who you are for yourself. At the very end of the day when the only reflection you see in the mirror is you. Know that its okay.

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As I go through life and look around I ask the question whats really going on

What did I do to deserve this stress, where did I go wrong

The spirited other react and act how they choose

Some may win and some may lose

My logic isnt your logic it can be

For the things you say and do couldnt be, wouldn't be, shouldnt be

I respect myself as well as others

No matter what you say or it do it doesn't bother

to me for I know ignorance owns the key

to so many doors with locks but not me

You cant change who I am or who I'm going to be

My decision are final because I live for me

My happiness is the foundation for all to come

I've got two little ones relying on me for many more years to come

So your thought process can never affect me

Hmmmm

'To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.' When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better.